After more than a year of marriage, I still find it very interesting to look up the photos of the marriage at that time. We want to record the details of these weddings. Jeffy's hometown is in the south. Because of the expectations of the elders of both sides, there are more traditional customs and procedures to go. Although the customs were too cumbersome and time-consuming in the process, when everything was completed, we were thankful that we had these rituals. , Also leave more unforgettable memories. At that time, relatives and friends of both parties were rushing around for the wedding, and the atmosphere of everyone participating in the grand event made us both very moved, and our hearts were filled with infinite gratitude. This time, let's sort out the process of the engagement day, the traditional meaning and preparations behind it!
The engaged convoy approached the door of the woman’s house,The man’s relatives and friends will fire guns nearby first, Inform the woman that this timeThe woman’s relatives and friends also returned to express their welcome. Jeffy remembers that every time he heard the rumbling of firecrackers when he was a child, he knew which neighbor's child was getting married. This time he changed himself to the sound of the firecrackers, and his mood was a little excited and nervous.
Before the groom gets off the car, the woman’sMale juniors carry trays with apples (or oranges), basins, and towelsAsk the groom to get out of the car at the door. After touching the apple, washing and wiping hands, the groom presses the red envelope to get off the car. The apple here symbolizes peace and security, and the orange symbolizes good fortune. The face wash with rice wine and white rice is a symbol of longevity.
Engagement Ceremony｜Recruitment and Employment
After the acceptance, the man’s relatives and friends willSmall hire, big hire,And prepared by the manSix ceremonyGive it to the woman, if you want to be more solemn, you can prepare for the twelfth ceremony. Looking at the gifts neatly arranged in wooden boxes, although it is complicated and it took a lot of time to prepare, I also realized that the traditional rituals give people a more solemn and formal feeling.
- The wooden box we placed at Liuli was rented from the cake company Isabel. Newcomers can also ask their cake company to see if there is a rental service.
The six gifts the man is going to give to the woman
Western-style wedding cakes or Chinese-style cakes, Chinese flat-cakes (Japanese-style cakes), women's gold ornaments and bridesmaids, salutes and candles, 4 or 6-color wedding candy, women's head and tail gifts
ManFor the womanTwelve ceremony
In addition to the six rituals, the top line, pig, capon or duck mother, canned food, wine and glutinous rice are added.
Engagement Ceremony｜Bong Cha
After the man’s elders are seated in the order of seniority, the groom is the last. After everything is positioned, we are waiting for the bride to appear on the stage. Serving tea to say hello to the elders. From this ceremony, the bride got to know the man's elders and also changed the name of the man's parent. After serving the tea, Hao Ming Ma led the bride back to the room to rest, and the elders started drinking tea and chatting.
- The number of male elders is generally 6 or 12. Try to avoid 4 in even numbers. The number of teacups must be the same as the number of engagement ceremonies.
Engagement Ceremony｜Press Tea Ou
Waiting for the elders to drink tea almost, Hao Mingpo led the bride to appear for the second time, and took back the empty tea cups in order. At this time, the elders would wrap the red envelopes and put them into the cups, and say an auspicious word to the bride. This is the words of the bride and groom. But think about it first, don't go blank like Jeffy! ! Jeffy was also touched by the whole ceremony at the time. Although the bride who has been in the room for a long time and did not show up, she still gives people an infinite sense of mystery. Until the moment she walks out of the room, she suddenly feels like her wife is immortal. Compelling ?
Engagement Ceremony | Sit on a high chair and pick a round stool
After the tea ceremony, a high chair and a small round stool will be placed in the living room, ready to enter the ring exchange ceremony. After the bride sits on the high chair, her feet on the small round stool, does she look like an elegant lady? Yes, this custom is also the hope that the bride can lead a good life after marriage, and it remains today La!
Engagement Ceremony｜Ring Exchange
After sitting down on the high chair, the ceremony of wearing the ring will be performed first, and the groom willGold ring and bronze ring tied together with red threadSet in the brideFingers of the right hand, the bride will alsoGold ring and bronze ring tied with red threadPutting the finger on the left hand of the groom, the purpose of the red line is to hope to be united forever. After discussing it, we decided to replace the copper ring with the platinum ring that we had bought first, so there was no need to buy it again.
Engagement Ceremony｜Wear Jewelry
Then the mothers of both sides will come out~ The mother-in-law will first hang the gold jewelry (necklaces, earrings, bracelets) in the six ceremony on the prospective daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law will also hang the gold necklace on the prospective son-in-law, symbolizing the gift from both parents to the new couple. The meeting ceremony is called a hook-up. At this time, I have to change my name, and I’m not used to calling my auntie my mother in an instant ?
Engagement Ceremony｜Return Gift
Finally came to the end of the Wending ceremony ~ the woman will send the man back the six or twelve ceremony.
The six gifts that the woman is going to give to the man
Western-style wedding cakes or Chinese-style cakes (Japanese-style cakes), men's gold ornaments, salutes and candles, 4 or 6-color wedding candy, men's head and tail gifts
The twelve gifts that the woman is going to give to the man
Charcoal, wheat and cereals, brown sugar, money and lead thread, belly wall, lotus and banana flowers, taro leaves
In addition to the six gifts, Mother Allie also specially prepared lotus and banana flowers and bananas, both of which symbolize more children and grandchildren. Looking at these two bunches of full bananas, you can feel the expectation of our mother for both of us?
The photographer also instructed us to take an interesting photo that day. Allie was holding longan in his hand. I heard that eating longan means that the bridegroom's eyes were eaten by the bride, and we can no longer peek at other girls! Allie said that this custom is too cruel, right~
Engagement Ceremony｜Engagement Banquet
Finally, the woman will set up a banquet and invite relatives and friends of both parties to dine together. After the "fish" meal is served, the relatives and friends of the man must leave without looking back, and can't say goodbye! This custom mainly hopes that the woman will "have fish (surplus)" and not be "cannibalized enough." Because of the epidemic at the time, we first hosted a simple family dinner in a retro restaurant.
Under the leadership of Haoming Po and Matchmaker, the entire engagement ceremony has finally come to a successful conclusion. Although I often feel troubled during the preparation process, I can’t help but feel very worthwhile in retrospect. Although these ceremonies are getting weaker and weaker, you should carefully understand the background. The meaning is that parents want their children to be happy after marriage.
In addition, I want to share with you in particular that getting married is a happy thing for the two families. The customs are also set by people, and there are some differences depending on the place. I didn't say what kind of process must be followed, and don't feel pressured because of what is not prepared. As long as the parents of both parties communicate well with the new couple and have a consensus with each other, it will be a great wedding ceremony! Nowadays, engagement ceremonies are becoming more and more simplified. Many restaurants have additional purchase plans for engagement ceremonies, providing venues, props and professional guidance, which saves a lot of time and troubles for new couples, which is also a very good way. I wish everyone who read this article and prepare to get married will be able to successfully complete the major events in life, and I hope that the article will help everyone!